In Parasha Vayechi, we read about one of the most moving moments when Jacob blesses his grandsons, Joseph’s two sons, Ephraim and Menashe. This act not only reflects the deep connection between grandparents and grandsons but also introduces an eternal message to the people of Israel.
Jacob, in blessing Ephraim and Menashe, folds his hands, placing his right hand on Ephraim, the younger, and his left hand on Menashe, the eldest. Joseph tries to correct his father, explaining that Menashe is the firstborn. However, Jacob replies that he knows this and persists in his decision.
From this act comes the blessing: “Yesimecha Elokim KeEfraim VeKemenashe” – may God make you like Ephraim and Menashe. To this day, many parents maintain this tradition by blessing their children every Friday night before Kiddush.
The question that arises is: Why did Ephraim and Menashe merit being the model of blessing for future generations?
A profound answer lies in the special relationship between these two brothers. The moment Joseph places Menashe at the right of Jacob, Ephraim does not feel jealous. Instead, he praises his older brother and acknowledges his merits by saying, “You truly deserve to receive this blessing first.” Then, when Jacob reverses his hands and places his right hand on Ephraim, Menashe does not resent or protest either. On the contrary, he also praises Ephraim, recognizing that his younger brother deserves this distinction.
This example of humility and harmony between brothers is why we want our children to be like Ephraim and Menashe: to live in unity, without envy or competition, and to praise one another. This message transcends family dynamics and invites us to reflect on our own relationships with others.
We must learn to praise our fellows more. Sometimes we forget to express words of praise, but simple recognition can raise the self-esteem of the recipient and strengthen relationships. We live in a world where criticism is often emphasized instead of praise. However, sincere praise has the power to transform hearts and bring us closer to one another.
Every time we treat our fellow human beings with affection and respect and when we praise instead of criticizing, we contribute to the final redemption.
Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Refael Cohen